3. Men and Women Need Each Other

Every person without exception absolutely needs love. Isn’t that right? To have love, an absolutely necessary element is another human being of the opposite sex.
A man needs a woman and a woman needs a man.
How much do they need each other? They need each other more than they need Korea, more than they need the world – even more than they need God. If there were no women, the entire human race would perish in less than a hundred years.
A man may boast that he has the power to rule the world, but if there were no women, all would be gone within one hundred years. So women are absolutely necessary. (25-180, 10/04/1969)

When we say “human beings” we mean men and women together.5 No man should be without a woman, and no woman should be without a man. A man does not choose to be born as a man; neither does a woman choose to be born as a woman. Only after we are born do we discover that we are either a man or a woman. (67-267, 07/22/1973)

Men, when you were born, were you aware that there are women in the world? Suppose a man is born and later finds out that there are only men; would he not feel bad? And if a woman is born and later finds out that there are only women, she too would feel bad, wouldn’t she? Yet at the time a woman is born, does she or does she not have any awareness that men exist? Although she was born without this knowledge, the One who gave her birth knew it. The reason she is born as a woman is because somewhere there is a man who needs her.
Likewise, the reason I am born as a man is because somewhere there is a woman who needs me. We are each born for the sake of someone, and God has knowledge of it. (37-19, 12/22/1970)

A man cannot find fulfillment without a woman. Even his relationship to God is not complete until he is connected to his human counterpart, his wife. Human history has been miserable because men have failed to understand that they absolutely need a woman to love and care for. Conversely, women have not understood that they absolutely need a man to love and care for.
True love can only be experienced on the foundation of an ideal relationship between a man and woman.
A man and woman who are absolutely committed to uniting in true love can attain such unity through single-minded devotion. When they have achieved absolute oneness, God dwells in their midst.
God would not like to see a husband and wife joined in true love separate, so He made the absolute love of man and woman eternal. (Blessed Family-340, 08/20/1986)

God is all-knowing and all-powerful, but if He is alone, these absolute attributes have no meaning. Similarly, a man may be handsome and possess a fine physique, but these things have no meaning if he is without a woman. A man who lives fascinated by his own good looks and physique leads an ugly, worthless existence. It is a problem that so many men have sunk into such narcissism; it is one reason why history has been full of tragedy. God’s providence works to change and improve the world immersed in such self-centeredness. (Blessed Family-340, 08/20/1986)