3.3 Education in how to love others

Parents have to educate their children about love, saying, "Your Mom and Dad love you, so if you do such and such, it'll hurt us. So you shouldn't do that, right?" The parents have to be a friend among friends to their children. They have to be the best teacher to their children.
So who should teach their children about love? The parents. The children should learn about love by seeing their parents together, loving each other and cooing like a pair of doves. They will say to themselves, "Dad and Mom like each other so much, and I'm so lonely by myself. I also need a love partner who I can coo with just like them." Parents have to teach their children so that they can follow the parents' example when it is their turn to get married. When the children follow the example of their parents, this world will become a world of goodness and human history will become a history of goodness. (57-118, 05/29/1972)

If a young man and woman are in a garden, whispering their love to each other, and the young man gives the young woman a rose, will she ever forget that? What about if the leaves of the rose become dried and withered? Do you think she will ever forget it? She won't forget it, ever.
An education through love, a life of faith through love, that is the Kingdom of Heaven. Any nation governed by knowledge or authority is doomed to come to an end. But knowledge through love, or economics through love - this is what makes the Kingdom of Heaven. (60-77, 08/06/1972)

What is the problem with education? The best education is love education, but where can we find the textbook of love? The textbook is the nation. Have you ever really loved before? If I truly love my parents, they cannot help but love me. If I truly love my wife, my wife loves me back. If a perfect minus is there, a plus will appear to complement it. If a perfect plus exists, a corresponding minus will naturally come about.
Love depends on me. It naturally follows that I will receive as much love as I give, but we have to give love first. Who is the textbook of love? That is a difficult thing. It is not easy to be a true husband. If someone has children but does not know about love, that is truly a fearful situation. If I fulfill all my responsibility as a husband, or as a wife, or as a parent, then the education I give will be good. You need to understand that the best possible textbook for an education is my own self.
Hence, love education is carried out based on the parents, then on family members and then based on the nation. The education here is the type of training that enables us to live in the heavenly kingdom. It is linked from the individual through the family, society, nation and world. If you are a mother, you do not have to tell your babies "I love you, I love you." They already sense it from the look in your eyes. (102-118, 11/27/1978)

Centering on parental love, you have to move forward with the love of teachers, nations, saints and finally God's love. We normally like our parents until the age of eighteen. After that, we love our teachers. We need love education in our childhood and youth up until we reach the prime of adulthood.
Just as I cannot forget my parents, I must not forget my teachers. Just as I cannot forget my teachers, I must not forget my country. Just as I cannot forget my country, I must not forget the saints. Just as I cannot forget the saints, I must not forget God. You have to feel grateful throughout your life for receiving education from all of these.
What does Rev. Moon of the Unification Church do? He is a man's man who comes as the textbook of love. Father Moon's teaching is that you should love your parents even more than you love him. As you could not love your parents and you learnt about love through Rev. Moon, he teaches you to love your parents more than you love him. (104-284, 06/01/1979)

You have to expand the three-dimensional love of the family to the world stage. Let us expand to the world level the kind of thinking a husband and wife have for their parents and for their children. Let us expand to the whole world the education you have received here.
You have to regard all the world's elderly people as your own grandfathers and grandmothers. You have to regard all the people in the world who are your parents' age as your own parents. When you see a man, you have to think, "This is simply an extension of my husband," and you have to see any person just younger than you as your younger brother or sister. You should see people who are the age of your son or daughter as your own children. This is the kind of heart of love we should have towards the people of the world. (104-336, 06/10/1979)

The person we call a man and the person we call a woman fundamentally seek to form an interaction of energy based on the reciprocal relationship between a subject and an object. What do we call this? Love. When that happens, the family is formed based on the force of love.
What is patriotism? National sovereignty and the foundation for the life of citizens are intertwined based on love. Who are the saints? They are the people in the subject position on the world level who carry out actions which can be intertwined with history, based on love. Therefore, all saints are religious leaders.
The basics of a saint's life are the principles of love. All religions have taught this. In Buddhism it is known as benevolence, and in Christianity, it is called love. Although we have never really understood its essence, this force fundamentally works to connect us to the core love action of the universe.
So there is a universal principle of interaction that forms the common denominator, and if someone or something does not conform to this common principle, it becomes separated and disengaged. If an object partner cannot be found after a certain time, that thing or person will then shatter and break apart. If, however, that person or thing can connect to love in the core position, if it can connect to the axial nucleus of love, then it will not be broken apart or destroyed, or dismantled. There is no loss there, but instead, perpetuity. (137-56, 12/18/1985)

For instance, what will happen if a daughter-in-law starts complaining, "What's going on? I was educated in the democratic way. My grandparents and parents are the same. So are my sons and daughters." Will there be order there? No. So here education is necessary.
When there is one kind of education left in the future world.....The age when education centers on the law is finished. Likewise, the age in which we can bargain with money or govern with authoritative power is all gone. None of these are now applicable. No matter how hard you might try, the time has passed and gone. They cannot take root anymore. The only thing that remains for us is our need to establish the order of love based upon universal virtue. (147-275, 10/01/1986)